About a month ago, I received an email notification that it was a Facebook friend’s birthday. I get an email like that almost every day because I have my Facebook account set up to remind me when one of my friends has a birthday.
The person for this particular birthday reminder was actually a friend of my parents and I did a double take when I read the email reminder.
You see, this gentleman was deceased and had been for over a year.
I was a little shocked at the thought that probably all of his Facebook friends were receiving an email to say “Happy Birthday” to him on his page.
In this particular instance, I suspected that the remaining family had no idea how to remedy this situation, so I decided to contact Facebook on their behalf. Facebook has an online page for submitting this type of information and will memorialize a deceased person’s account with a valid request which includes a link to an obituary or other official documentation about the death.
A memorialized Facebook account can still be used by friends and family to remember the loved one with postings, but friend suggestions, ads and birthday reminders will stop. The word “Remembering” will be added next to the person’s name on their profile.
There are other options for Facebook accounts after death. Verifiable family members can request to have an account completely removed from Facebook, but don’t you want to be in charge of your digital afterlife?
This got me thinking about end-of-digital-life plans and what you can do to protect your social digital remains and make it easier on your loved ones after you are gone. Currently, Facebook and Google seem to be the most proactive and allow you to edit settings about what will happen to your account after you die and who you give permission to facilitate your wishes. For example, you can choose to have your account deleted or name a legacy contact who can download an archive of your posts, photos, emails, etc.
LinkedIn, Twitter and Pinterest depend upon family and friends to contact them after a death, with supporting documents, to close an account. Hopefully, these popular online sites will add the capability for users to leave directions for after death account closure or access.
How to specify digital afterlife settings in Facebook
Facebook allows you to either specify a contact to manage your Facebook account or to completely delete your account after you die. Any of your contacts or family can report your death with supporting documentation, which Facebook reviews and then approves. Your selected legacy contact can post a message on your page, change your profile picture, respond to friend requests and download your shared posts and photos. Unfortunately, you can’t choose to have a legacy contact and to eventually delete your Facebook page.
- Go to https://www.facebook.com/settings?tab=security.
- If you want to have your account managed and remaining on Facebook, click on Legacy Contact. More information about legacy contacts is here.
- Enter the name of one of your Facebook contacts. You will have the option to immediately send a message notifying that person that you have selected him/her as your legacy contact, but you don’t have to send one.
- You can choose whether or not to allow your legacy contact to download a copy of what you’ve shared on Facebook.
- If you don’t want your account to remain on Facebook, do not enter a legacy contact. Instead, check the box for Account Deletion.
How to specify digital afterlife settings in Google
I really like Google’s method. They call it the Inactive Account Manager because it only activates after there has been no activity with your account for an amount of time that you specify. Once that amount of time has passed, Google will attempt to contact you (in case you’re still around!) and secondary contacts that you name. You can specify that all or parts of your account are automatically deleted or allow for your legacy contacts to download your account data.
- Go to https://www.google.com/settings/account.
- Under Account Tools, click on Inactive Account Manager.
- You may need to enter your mobile phone number and verify it.
- Choose the amount of time your account can be inactive before Google attempts to contact you or your legacy contacts.
- Add trusted contacts, one at the time. You will select which Google services they can access. They will have 3 months to download your data.
- Compose an email that will be sent to your contact upon your inactivity. (This was quite hard for me and emotional!)
- You can add up to 10 trusted contacts with separate emails for each.
- Set up a general auto response to incoming emails once your account has been inactive for the specified period of time. I recommend selecting to send this response only to those who are in your contacts.
- You can choose to have all of your account data deleted once your requested actions have been completed.
- Once you have completed your Inactive Account settings, click on the Enable button.
- You can edit or disable your Inactive Account settings at any time.
Links to digital afterlife policies for other sites
This isn’t a particularly cheery subject – to contemplate the end of one’s life. But, if you are proactive enough to have a last will and testament in place, then you should also be proactive with your digital estate planning.